On expectations (#021)

Brief post on expectations.

Day events:

  • Went to SoHo.
  • Ate Prince Street Pizza (less good than Joe's imo).
  • Kinda shopped a bit, but gave up quickly cuz I didn't know where I wanted to shop at.
  • Bought a "proper" casual fit for dinner with DG (@uniqlo obvs).
  • Ate at a nice little park.
  • Had dinner with the DG team (and met them IRL for the first time).

Thought of the day:

Today I had two similar experiences, but with two opposite outcomes.

The first one was when I went to go eat Prince Street Pizza.

I had such high expectations of this place because I had heard many good things about it and had previously tasted Joe's Pizza (often compared to each other).

But the reality left me a bit disappointed. Don't get me wrong, it wasn't a bad pizza by any means. It just fell short to my imaginary expectations.

The second one was my meeting with DG.

At the beginning of the day, I debated heavily on whether or not I should accept their dinner invitation because I was almost certain that it was going to be somewhat awkward.

The reality of this dinner was the total opposite of what I had expected. It was totally awesome and I'm so glad I decided to go. No matter what happens in the future, I'll always keep this good memory.

Anyway, so what's the point of all this?

I think what I'm trying to say is that expectations aren't shit.

I was always a big advocate of having "low expectations" because, similarly to my meeting with DG, you can only dg, things can only go up from the experience a positive surprise.

Although this makes sense logically, I think it also puts us in a habit of constantly downplaying any potential experiences in fear of them not meeting our expectations and that's a bit like lying to ourselves.

Instead, I propose simply not having any expectations and only judging the experience while living it.

Get excited to try the experience, but don't put any expectations (positive or negative) on it.

Does that make sense? idk

Is it hard? yes

Am I tired af rn? yes, goodnight.

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