Small continuous improvements and not being a MC (#132)

Thought of the day:

At our core, I think everyone dreams to be the protagonist of their own lives.

Whether it be the main character in a book, a movie, a show or an anime, there's something empowering about watching someone change their life around and become a winner.

I believe that's why most people love "overnight" successes.

I'm no exception.

I'm more influenced by anime and manga, but I can get quite addicted to a good zero to hero story.

And due to my constant exposure to all these redemption stories, I somehow convinced myself that I should also be able to have a redemption story.

Whenever I feel tired of my life and want to make a drastic change, I always think about doing extreme changes in my life. After all, that's what usually happens in the media we consume right?

That one moment where the main character feels down, has hit rock bottom and decides that this is the final straw. Cut to a scene of the MC doing all the right things, working hard, waking up early, training hard, etc.

Up until the final scene or the redemption scene where we see all their hard work pay off.

There are even real life stories that resemble this.

That's why, I feel like whenever I want to make changes, I somehow expect it to have the same outcome as in the movies.

But reality is different.

Change does not resemble a linear line, it resembles more the upward trajectory of a roller coaster.

Ups and downs and more downs and sometimes more ups and sometimes a super big up, followed by a small down, etc.

I think the important aspect is that when we zoom out of the graph, we see an overall positive change.

Additionally, meaningful change happens over a long period of time. There are obviously exceptions and most people would like to think they're an exception or that they're somewhat special, and maybe you are, but most likely you aren't. In any case, it's always better to have a conservative approach in order to manage expectations.

If you actually do turn out to be special, then you'll simply exceed tremendously your expectations; however, in the case you're not special, then you'll simply meet the expectations, which is enough.

The reason why I'm saying all this is because I am delusional in that way.

I would like to think that I'm special, that I'm somewhat an incredible protagonist. That when I think about doing something, I'm able to do a complete revamp of myself and tackle my goal with 100% effort and getting things right all the time.

If I want to sleep early, I would want myself to start sleeping early every day starting right now.

If I want to get better at badminton, I'd want myself to drop everything I'm doing and concentrate 100% on fixing my technique and once I'm done, then I'll be able to play like I want to.

If I want to change jobs, I want to apply with 110% effort every time. Going above and beyond what each company requires of me.

Turns out, it's really freaking hard to do that.

Instead, the sustainable and realistic way of doing it, would be to try and improve by a tiny amount every time and keep doing it over a longer period of time.

It's basically the difference between using a "6-week get shredded" program that requires you to gym every single day vs gymming twice a week for 1 year.

Sure, the results might take longer, but the change will be more sustainable and, overall, will allow you to have a more meaningful change.

James clear said that if you improve by 1% each day for a whole year, you'll end up being 37 times better than when you started. I mean, even 1% is a lot to improve upon every day.

But imagine if you can simply improve by 2% every week. That'll make you 2.8 (almost 3) times better than when you started !

Okay, I really thought this was going to be an epic one when I was thinking about it in the shower at 12, but now it's 5pm and I don't have the same inspiration. Whatever, at least, it's a bit better than what I've been writing so far. Small continuous improvements. Small continuous improvements. Small continuous improvements.

Additional note:

I also have to remind myself that, for me, it's better if I simply focus on quantity rather than quality. I tend to want perfection so when I think about quality, I tend never to be satisfied, get discouraged by my lack of high-quality progress and eventually give up on the whole thing. Finding what works best for you is the key here.

Good day.

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