Stop avoiding pain (#003)

It seems counterintuitive, but I was making my life harder by avoiding pain, this is why...

Day Events:

  • Successfully delivered a project (commission scaling) I've been working on for the past 7 months.
  • Whole day work session with one of my coworkers (Vic).
  • Caught up on Spy x Family & Ao Ashi.
  • Played some good badminton. I was keeping a mental image of Derrick Ng when I was playing, it seemed to help.

Thought of the day: I should stop avoiding pain.

I've been reading this book called "How to Live" by Derek Sivers and in this book, there's a chapter called "Pursue pain."

As the title suggests, the chapter explains how the pursuit of pain will make us happier instead of the pursuit of comfort. M.Sivers makes the point that any joyous moment in our life happened after a certain amount of pain.

This chapter struck a chord with me because I've been pretty miserable since graduating from university and, part of the cause, I think, is due to my avoidance of pain.

After graduating, I must have thought that I've suffered enough in university and that it was time for me to enjoy life. Except my definition of enjoyment was skewed towards comfortableness more than anything else.

Anything hard, I avoided. Anything that brought my suffering, I avoided. Anything that required effort, I avoided. It all seemed like such a hassle to me and I ultimately thought that a happy life meant an easy life.

I now realize that I was completely wrong.

By avoiding pain all this time, I was making my future life harder.

Avoiding pushing myself during trainings meant less gains and thus, a weaker body.

Avoiding concepts difficult to grasp meant stunting my learnings.

Avoiding hard tasks meant stopping my career growth.

Avoiding tough conversations meant jeopardizing my relationships.

As Jerzy Gregorek once said: "Hard choices, easy life. Easy choices, hard life."

What type of life do I want? An easy life obviously.

From now on, let me pick the hard choices. Let me pursue pain instead of avoiding it.

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