The importance of being real with ourselves (#172)

Day highlights:

  • Feel a lot better than yesterday ! Although, I'm starting to feel it again now. Will sleep right after this.
  • Dropped JB home. (Recover well !! xx)
  • Had a very relax day at work.
  • Relaxed the whole day. Spent too much time on my phone / computer imo.

Thought of the day:

Mark Manson, one of my favorite bloggers (and now international best best best seller), once wrote that a very good question to ask ourselves when trying to find our "life's purpose" is "what type of shit sandwich are we willing to eat?" or something along those lines.

The gist of it is that every sucks some times and everything requires some type of sacrifice in order to achieve it. Making yourself homemade chicken noodle soup when you're sick tastes more effort & time (unless you have an awesome girlfriend such as JB who is willing to come over and cook for you... THANK YOU AGAIN), but is probably better for your recovery and overall healthier. Canned soup is pretty effortless to make, but is probably less healthy and thus, might you recover as quickly.

Which shit sandwich do you want to eat? Effort or speedy recover?

Before making a choice, let me spoil you: there's no universal "good" or "bad" choice.

Anyway, when I first wrote that post by Mark Manson, I remember agreeing with everything he said. I remember thinking about all the wild wild dreams and ambition I had (this was when I was still in University) and thought to myself "I'm willing to eat whatever shit sandwich I need to eat in order to achieve my goals" (can't remember what they were at the time).

Well, today, while taking a hot, steamy shower, I got real honest with myself. I admitted to myself that "hey, maybe you aren't willing to eat any shit sandwich, in fact, there's not a lot of shit sandwiches you are willing to eat."

At first, it made me uneasy, I always thought that I was going to be someone grand. Someone who'll be really successful (per society's standards so like money, followers, be known, etc.). And the fact that I am not willing to eat a lot of shit sandwiches kinda broke that image I had of myself.

This might sound depressing, but it's actually not.

Because once that image was dead, it could make space for something better, greater... for myself.

I could finally ask myself "what type of shit sandwich am I truly willing to eat?"

This is a great question because now, I have 2 boundaries. An upper boundary and a lower boundary.

The lower boundary is all the things I imagine myself doing. ALL of them. Those things where motivation speakers will tell you to dream about and say "shoot for the moon because even if you fail, you'll land amongst the stars".

The upper boundary is my giant shit sandwich. What am I NOT willing to do or NOT willing to give up?

And right in the middle, between that upper shit sandwich and the lower dream level contains all the possibilities that I could actually take... and be happy with my choices.

To come back to my initial question of Effort vs Speedy Recover when it came to the soup, the reason why I said that there are no universally good (or bad) answer is because it depends of who's asking it.

If you're someone who truly wants to recover quickly, then you'll opt for a homemade soup (okay, I know there are exceptions like if you're dying dying and can't do shit, but forget about that). The shit sandwich you chose is putting in the extra effort to make a healthier meal.

If you're someone who doesn't really mind not recovering quickly or, if you want to be real honest, don't want to make the extra effort, then the canned soup is for you.

I think what I discovered today is the importance of really being REAL with ourselves. We can flaunt and put on a show for the world; however, deep down inside, we all know that we cannot lie to ourselves.

Once we start to realize this, we can work towards being the best versions of ourselves. Period.

Good night.

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