The joys of commitment (#010)

First of probably many posts about the power of committing.

Day events:

  • I didn't sleep a whole lot yesterday, but I didn't feel extremely tired. I think being happy makes you more functional.
  • I wasn't able to work much during the day.
  • I completed the task I wanted to complete after normal work hours.
  • Again, good discussions with miss JB. New experiences lead to new thinking points. I like it.
  • Went to the physio to checkout my hip. Turns out my left hip might be closer than normal to the hip socket. Solution is to strengthen the muscles around and all loosen them up.
  • Trying to sleep early today, but it also means a longer post !

Thought of the day:

Commitments are awesome.

If there's one thing I had wrong my entire life, it's my views about commitments.

I dislike the saying "fear of commitment" as I wasn't fearful of anything. It was more that I had a "love of optionality".

From a very young age, I thought it didn't make sense to restrict my options especially when I had no idea what I wanted.

Instead of committing, I chose to start something and if a better option came along, I simply switched to it because who wouldn't want the better option?

The problem of always wanting the best is that you eventually realize that there is no "best".

As Derek Sivers said, there is no best, only a best for you.

And in my case, because I didn't know myself enough, best for me didn't exist.

Consequently, I was fucked.

I wanted to be beef in order to be strong, look good, etc.

I also wanted to become really good at badminton.

With limited time and a love of optionality, I decided to half-ass both.

I wanted to become a marketer because I wanted to help companies thrive.

I wanted to become a YouTuber to inspire people.

I wanted to become an entrepreneur to be my own boss and make money.

I wanted to start a startup because it looked fun.

With limited time and a love of optionality, I decided to do none because I couldn't choose.

This lack of choosing and committing was the source of most of my problems. I didn't know which step to choose next because I had a thousand different paths in front of me.

Until I read "How to Live".

Those 3-4 pages that explained how optionality was harming my life.

I then proceeded to think and feel what I wanted.

I chose badminton.

I chose coding.

And I've been happy since.

With this lesson learned, I'll definitely start looking at more areas in my life where I can commit instead of keeping my options open.

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