The solution to fear is love (#081)

Day events:

  • Picked up JB at the airport.
  • Spent the entire day with JB.
  • Lots of interesting and fun convos (very very good to have you back JB xx !!).
  • Went for a walk.
  • Badminton practice (played surprisingly well despite being a bit tired).

The grateful section:

  1. Grateful to have the human being nicknamed JB in my life. I've already told her this multiple times and I will continue to do so, but she's an incredible human being and I truly feel blessed to have met her and for her to be part of my life.
  2. Grateful for the Atwater club. The people, the gym, the badminton courts, etc. It's literally my second home and I'm glad that this place exists.
  3. Grateful for the inventor of instant noodles. I ate some after badminton practice and oh my god, it just hits different after a workout haha.

Thought of the day:

In one of the conversations I had with JB today, we talked about weaknesses.

I told her that I thought it was okay to have weaknesses and that it can also be very useful to acknowledge them.

Once you know you have a weakness, it's easier to build a plan to achieve your goal while keeping in mind this weakness of yours.

I think everyone will always have weaknesses and that it's unrealistic to think we can get rid of all of them.

It becomes especially dangerous to think this whenever we might want to "fix" our weaknesses before taking action.

While walking back from badminton practice, I thought about this subject for a bit and realized that this also applies with fears.

Indeed, I noticed it was a pattern of mine to try and get rid of fear before taking an action. Or even thinking that the reason why I couldn't take action was because of this fear.

If this were true, it would make sense to spend a lot of time trying to dissolve this fear in order to move forward.

However, it is not true.

As humans being, we are able to take action and move forward despite our fears.

It happens all the time.

For instance, whenever I'm playing in a badminton tournament, every single game that I play, I always have a certain fear of losing. It just comes with the game.

Or whenever I write these blog posts, I always have the fear that what I'm writing is not actually good.

If I waited until my fears would completely be gone, I probably never would have played any tournaments or even written a blog post.

Consequently, I would have never reached my initial goal of getting to A in badminton and I would not be about to writing my 81th consecutive blog post.

The reason why I am still able to move forward despite after these fears is because there's something that I love more than my fear.

In badminton, it's winning & playing my best.

In writing, it's keeping my streak going.

The solution to fear is not to spend energy trying to get rid of it completely.

Because let's be real, some fears will probably never go away.

The solution is to spend that same energy to cultivate something that you love, which in turn, will win over your fears and pull you to take action.

But the first step, is to first acknowledge your fears.

Then and only then, will you be able to create a plan (such as concentrating on something you love) to move forward even if you have fears.

So next time you want to take action and seem to be very fearful about it, make your mind do a 180 and think about your love for something that's stronger than your fears.

Good night.

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